The Maniniholo Dry Cave on Kauai Island is an amazing feat of nature. It goes back over 100 feet, and I was thrilled to walk all the way to the back. The only thing hiding at the back of this deep, dark cave is tourists, but what are you hiding in the deep, dark corners … [Read more…]
In the same way that you would want to defend or protect someone you love who was in danger of being hurt, our Managers are the parts of us that protect us from feeling shame, hurt, and fear. Some managers try to control our immediate environment to make it look like everything is going alright … [Read more…]
It’s important to identify the parts of your mind that are acting as your protectors, trying to make sure you don’t get hurt and that you fit in with the world around you. The more connected you are with Self, the less your managers need to protect you from hurt, fear and shame.
Our Internal Family System (IFS) is made up of different types of Parts. First, we have vulnerable Parts that carry our beliefs and feelings from past experiences, beginning at birth all the way to the present. In IFS, these Parts are known as Exiles. For our purposes, we will refer to them as our vulnerable … [Read more…]
Exiles: Young, vulnerable parts that carry the burden of past experiences. In an effort to ‘move on’ from painful experiences, we exile the associated memories and emotions by burying them deep in our subconscious. Exiles are also created when we bury undesirable aspects of our personality that don’t appear to fit in with our surrounding … [Read more…]