As a child, I felt a lot of shame. Growing up at the Shriner’s Hospital for Crippled Children, I was just like all the other patients. Once I was sent home, I was different than everyone else in my town, including all of my family members. I walked and moved differently than the other children … [Read more…]
I believe that going through the steps to become Self aware has led me to a much greater understanding of who I am. Now, when I look in the mirror or observe myself interacting with other people, I’m not surprised by my actions or reactions. I know who I am and why I am the … [Read more…]
In our society, we are generally taught that we should “move on” from painful experiences and that we should appear as “normal” as possible at all times. We try to bury a lot of feelings, which only intensifies the secret hold they have on us. By identifying the experiences that have contributed to who you … [Read more…]
I wrote my book, Be Self Aware, as an easy-to-understand tool that I hope will help you to discover what causes you to act and react the way you do. Therapy is an amazing tool for connecting with yourself and comprehending your feelings and actions more deeply, but this book should help you begin getting … [Read more…]
Taking time to sit and just be with yourself is rare in this day and age. We are surrounded by so much noise and technology that it’s easier to embrace the chaos and try to ignore our thoughts and feelings. But stopping to listen to the voices inside of your head and to learn where … [Read more…]
I can’t image what it would have been like for my parents, in rural Manitoba in the 1950’s, having a child with a severe birth abnormality. Growing up in a hospital 4 hours away from my family led to long-term separation anxiety. My family was rarely able to visit, and when my mother did visit, … [Read more…]
In the same way that you would want to defend or protect someone you love who was in danger of being hurt, our Managers are the parts of us that protect us from feeling shame, hurt, and fear. Some managers try to control our immediate environment to make it look like everything is going alright … [Read more…]
All of us have situations that cause us to react negatively – they trigger an emotion in us and we often can’t quite put our fingers on why. In becoming Self Aware, I worked through learning a number of my triggers and dug deep into discovering why they affect me the way they do. In … [Read more…]
Becoming Self aware is a process that must happen from the inside out. We need to stop and look inside to identify the parts of ourselves that are preventing us from living aware of Self. Those parts that are keeping us from living in Self are also the ones preventing us from living our greatest … [Read more…]
It’s important to identify the parts of your mind that are acting as your protectors, trying to make sure you don’t get hurt and that you fit in with the world around you. The more connected you are with Self, the less your managers need to protect you from hurt, fear and shame.